Leap of Faith – Selling Meds

It has been forever since I’ve written on my own blog.  I’ve stayed connected by reading other blogs and commenting, but I haven’t felt the need or want to write about myself.  I think part of the reason is that things have been going well and I didn’t want to jinx anything and also I still have guilt that I was one of the lucky ones where IVF finally worked.  I will be 22 weeks on Monday and so far so good.  Both babies are growing on track and overall I’ve been feeling good.  All of our screening tests and ultrasounds have been exactly what the Dr. would like to see.  My husband and I are planners and we like to be organized.  Over the last several weeks we have been cleaning out the basement and guest room, getting rid of unneeded/unwanted items, and preparing for the arrival of our little ones.  We both get a natural high from cleaning and being productive, but I’ve also slowly allowed myself to enjoy the true purpose for why we were doing it.  I think I’ve finally reached a place where I am happy.  Of course I know anything can go wrong at anytime, but this is not an everyday worry I carry with me anymore.  I’m enjoying being pregnant.

With these new feelings, I’ve decided I no longer want to hang on to the infertility meds that I did not need to use.  My hope is that someone who needs them, but has poor insurance coverage or no insurance coverage is able to use them….and that they achieve for them what they achieved for me…a pregnancy.

I have the following meds still in boxes that were never opened:

Menopur Q-CAP 75IU – $30

Menopur

Gonal-F 1050 IU Multi-dose – $30

Gonal-F

Vivelle 0.1 MG Dot Patches (estadoil transdermal system)  – $50 for 4 boxes (8 patches in each box)

Vivelle Patches

Please email me at talesofacautiousoptimist@gmail.com if you are interested and I can ship them out to you.

At a loss for words…

Lately I have been disconnected from my own blog.  I’ve still stayed very connected to all of you by reading and commenting on your blogs.  I just don’t feel like sitting down to type anything meaningful.  I definitely don’t feel disconnected from my infertility now that I am pregnant.  I guess I just don’t feel like writing about it?  The news is finally out.  B and I both shared the news with work and then friends (family already knew) and it is definitely out there.  I was a little nervous about how I might feel sharing that we are expecting twins…not that we are not extremely happy about this, but that it might automatically lead to an uncomfortable line of questioning.  However, there was nothing uncomfortable about it at all.  Some people have asked, “Do twins run in your family?” and others have not asked anything at all.  In both circumstances, I’ve found myself easily able to share that we achieved pregnancy and twins through infertility treatment.  Depending on the person, we either just shared vague information (like we’ve been trying for a LONG time and finally were able to with fertility assistance) or the conversation went into more detail (we’ve been trying for 2 years, this was our 3rd cycle of IVF, b/c it was our 3rd cycle and our embryos were non-top quality we decided to transfer 2, etc.)  Overall, the experience was nothing like I imagined it to be and in a way I feel proud of myself for being so open about our experience.  I think it helped that B was so willing to be open about it, which surprised me b/c he is so private.  That gave me a sense of comfort as well.

I’ve experience several FB and other types of pregnancy announcements over the past couple of weeks.  Even though we are finally pregnant, it still STINGS!  Yikes, does it sting. My best friend informed me that another friend of hers is pregnant and due the same week as me…(oh you mean the friend that just got married this summer…fanfreakentastic!!!)  This person has nothing to do with me other than being a friend of a friend that I maybe see 1x a year.  Was she deliberately trying to hurt me by getting pregnant so easily?  Of course not…I’m pretty sure she and her husband were not at all thinking about me when they made this decision!  But logic is not always part of infertility…it’s just another piece of evidence that others had it easier than us.  And it still doesn’t seem fair.  None of it does.

I have been wanting to write several posts about big picture infertility topics, but I just don’t seem to have the energy or drive.  I really want to write about infertility insurance coverage (or lack there of nationally)…especially b/c I am one of the lucky ones who lives in a state that gives great coverage (still costs way more than getting pregnant on our own), which made it manageable for us to get where we are today.  Just another thing on my to do list, that has not been crossed off….however, I’m not pressuring myself to write blogs – this is an outlet and resource (I hope for others) and will go at my own pace.  I never want to feel like it’s a hassle to write…especially b/c I typically don’t enjoy writing.

Well it seems I’m not so much at a loss for words anymore…

Sickness

Yes, that is right, I have been sick since Christmas Day!  I had a little reprieve for a couple days in early January, but then I was hit with acute bronchitis.  I had to miss several days of work.  I hadn’t exercised.  Today was the first day I was able to get out and walk to the dog for our usual walk (3.5 miles).  I had little to no appetite and didn’t eat much more than chicken broth and mac and cheese.  I have been completely knocked out.  I did make it through a whole work week last week, but that is all I was able to do.  It took all of my energy to get there, get the priority stuff done and get myself home.  I did not grocery shop.  I did not clean or do laundry.  I have been pretty much useless for over 3 weeks.  B also became sick last week and is still fighting off the tail end of it.  He had an ear infection and sinus infection so at least he was able to get some meds to help fight it.  Yesterday I went grocery shopping and caught up on laundry.  Today I have some work to do from home to catch up from the days I missed.  I finally have some energy back and I’m starting to feel better.  I hardly ever get sick and when I do it’s just a measly cold that I can usually work through and be done with in a couple days.  I have never been so sick in my life!  I’m guessing it’s a combination of my immune system being vulnerable due to the pregnancy and the massive germs that have been spreading around the Northeast (as other places I’m sure).

A quick pregnancy update for those that like to know what is going on….

Today I am 12 weeks.  Symptoms have been pretty much masked by or intertwined with my sickness.  Before I got sick I was feeling slightly nauseous and very tired…still feel both of those.  Thursday we have our 1st trimester screen (ultrasound and b/w).  If everything looks good on Thursday, we will both be telling work.  Everyone in our immediate and close extended family knows.  Once we tell work, we will be telling friends.  After going through everything we’ve been through to get to this point, it feels strange to not have any medical proof of what is happening with my body.  The last ultrasound was 8 weeks, 4 days.  It will be 4 weeks on Thursday without knowing what is going on.  It is very hard not to let my imagination run wild.  I keep going back to the fact that I’ve had no painful cramping or any bleeding whatsoever.  I’m using that as my proof that everything is still okay with the twins.  It is still hard to sit with the unknown though.  I will feel a lot better after we have the ultrasound on Thursday…I also think we will get to hear the heartbeats for the first time, which I am really looking forward to.  So for now I’m just hanging in there trying to get myself feeling better and hopefully getting to enjoy being pregnant for a while.

New Year’s Wish

My wish for 2013 is for all my blog friends to receive BFP’s that stick.  2012 has been a very rough year for many of us.  I feel very fortunate that 2012 ended with a long awaited BFP, but I know many of you are still stuck in the shitty trenches.  So I wish 2013 is your year.  For myself, I wish we continue to have a healthy pregnancy and 2 healthy babies.  Today I am 9 weeks.  It feels good to be progressing, but it’s also very strange this early on.  One minute I am terrified it’s all over and the next I am searching online for baby gear and planning out the nursery.  We have a very long way to go and having gone through infertility and failed cycles I know very well complications can arise at any time.  I’ve been fairly good at pushing them aside, but the thoughts are always there lingering.

Tonight I have no celebration planned.  B is working all night and I am on day 6 of being sick.  I have no energy.  I am stuffed up with a sore throat and tend to get in coughing fits when I lay down.  The mornings and evenings are the worst…it seems all the mucus comes out at these times and the nose blowing and stuffy feeling is constant.  I haven’t left the house in 7 days (with the exception of 2 very short walks I took C on when B wasn’t able to).  Luckily B is a clean freak and has been sanitizing everything every day and has washed the sheets.  I have to go back to work on Wednesday and I am hoping I feel better by then.  If not, going to work sick is not going to fun.

I hope everyone has a very safe and happy new year’s eve celebration tonight!

Christmas Vacation

While out on Christmas Eve, my throat felt a bit scratchy.  I felt fine, but it was enough to let me know Christmas Day was not going to be so good.  And I’ve held onto this head cold/sore throat since then.  I haven’t slept much at all (except for last night) and I’ve been between the couch and bed and nothing else.  B, C and I did have a nice Christmas morning opening gifts.  Despite being sick, it was nice to watch C open his new toys and treats…he was exhausted by mid-morning!  I’ve been getting a bit antsy as I’ve done absolutely nothing productive, but I guess it’s good for me to really just relax.

Yesterday we had our last ultrasound appointment at the RE’s office.  Everything looks good.  My cervix was long and closed (45 was the number she said…not sure what that means).  And our two little babies are growing.  Baby B caught up to Baby A and they are both measuring 21mm at 8 weeks, 6 days.  Their heartbeats were measured at 165 and 175.  This time we could actually see the mid-brain, and the arm and leg buds.  It was really cool.  Baby B was standing on its head, so B told me that one is mine..haha!  We called my parents and shared the new information with them and sent them a couple pics we got at the appointment.  We still haven’t shared the news with anyone else.  Next weekend we plan to tell my aunt, grandma and godmother when we see them in person.  We probably won’t tell B’s family until we make it to the 12 week mark.  We don’t want it out out until then and unfortunately I don’t think they will be able to keep it quiet.  I am willing to tell them sooner, but B rather wait.  It’s starting to feel real.  B and I spent some time yesterday discussing how we would change the guest room around.  I had started clearing some stuff out last week, but B got the half-chewed (thank you puppy C) area rug and big wooden chair out of there.  I think we agree on a layout for the room, we just need to get some more furniture.  My mom already said she would purchase the cribs.  We want to get a queen size daybed, but they don’t seem to exist.  Anyone have any leads on where we could get one?  Or how we could create a frame for a queen mattress?

C has been particularly cute and cuddly these days.  He snuggles up right to the back of my legs.  I wonder if he can sense something is different…or if he actually understands what I’m saying b/c I’ve told him about 100x the babies are in my belly!  I’m feeling quite happy about all of this…but don’t worry, I haven’t completely let down my guard.

Posting

When do bloggers choose to post?  When do they choose not to post?  I check blogs that I follow just about every day to see if there is a new post.  It is rare that I don’t even have the chance to check, but occasionally it does happen.  For the most part, I’m a daily reader.  I have also been a very boring person over the past 2 years.  I have gone out with friends a bit, but nothing like I used to.  Infertility has taken so much out of me (both physically and emotionally), that I have mostly chosen to keep to myself.  I haven’t initiated any get togethers with friends, aside from a monthly dinner I have with my roommate from grad school (which at times, she has to push me to nail down a date).  My point is, I don’t have much of a life anymore.  I don’t want to make it seem like I don’t have any friends or that I never make the effort, but overall my daily schedule is quite boring.  Thus, leaving me much time to read blogs.  However, it also leaves me with not much to post on my own blog.  Life has been pretty boring aside from infertility stuff.  And with that, there is always that wait time where not much is happening.

The point I’m getting to is that I am often disappointed when the women I follow have not posted anything new.  Yes, I realized I’m being a bit hypocritical as I do not post every day.  But, I am very curious to hear about where others are in their cycle, or their now pregnancy.  And to be honest, I guess it makes me feel like I’m connected to them when I get to read about something new happening.  (I swear I’m not a creepy stalker that believes people I’ve never met are my best friends).  I think you all know what I mean though…this is a place where we all have something sucky in common that gives us a sense of comfort.

I tend to become disappointed when a blogger hasn’t posted anything new, especially if it has been a couple of days or longer.  Do people not post more often b/c they are extremely busy and don’t have the time?  Do they not post b/c there are some things they need to process for a while before sharing with the blogging community?  Are there other reasons?  Just something I’ve been thinking about lately…

For those of you that celebrate Christmas, I hope you have a wonderful holiday!  B and I will be spending time with some family and friends tonight, but tomorrow it’s just us and the pup….exactly how I want it! :)  I am very thankful that this Christmas our wish came true and we have 2 little ones on the way.  I am only 8 weeks today and I know there could still be bad news, but I’m going to focus on the present and just enjoy it while we can.  We have our follow-up ultrasound with our RE on Friday.  If all is okay it will be our last appointment with them.  It will of course be bittersweet.

Ultrasound Day

B and I got to the RE’s office at 9am for our appointment.  They were a bit backed up so we didn’t get in until 9:30am.  It was strange sitting in the waiting room with others.  Before today I had always assumed those in the waiting room with me were in the same place as I was.  It never occurred to me that any of them might have been going in for an ultrasound b/c they were pregnant.  I mean it’s really pretty silly, but that is just the place I was in so I guess I assumed they were in it with me.  Today I had a tinge of guilt, but I also knew that there were a bunch of BFP’s for this past IVF cycle.  When I spoke to the nurse about our doubling beta level she was flustering a little bit to find when my ultrasound appointment would be.  She said she couldn’t remember off the top of her head b/c they had so many BFP’s this cycle.  I was hoping that’s why the others in the waiting room were there, but I also kept myself in check so that I didn’t inadvertently seem too happy while we were waiting or when we left.

We were in the room with A our favorite ultrasound tech and K one of our favorite nurses.  We got started right away and the first thing A said was, “How do you both feel about twins?!!!!” and turned the monitor so we could see. B and I both had huge smiles on our faces and we both even giggled a little bit.  We were relieved, shocked, happy, excited, terrified, nervous, you name it, we felt it.  But most of all we are happy.  Then A turned the monitor back and took a closer look.  She named them A and B.  A is measuring at 6w3d with a HB of 128 and B is measuring a couple days behind at 6w0d with a HB of 122.  My ovaries are still HUGE, but not so huge that there was any concern.  Everything looked good to A so we were SO relieved!  K scheduled us for 1 more ultrasound in 2 weeks (12/28) and gave us a referral to an OB in the same hospital.  The OB is actually on the 4th floor of the same building and he did a rotation in the IVF unit.  This was what sold me on him.  K gave several recommendations, but I asked her for someone who would be especially sensitive to what we went through and informed about IVF (partly so I don’t feel like I need to teach my doctor about how we got here).  I made our first appointment with him for 1/3/13 (I will be 9 weeks, 3 days).  I asked K when it would be okay to tell people and she said after the 8 week ultrasound as long as everything looked good.  She said that 6-8 weeks is the most critical time period.  She also said there is a chance that we could have a vanishing twin, but there was nothing to suggest that from what A saw on the ultrasound.

K also tracked down our RE so she could congratulate us and we could thank her.  She isn’t scheduled to work on the 28th when we go back so she wanted to see us today.  I liked her, but I honestly didn’t have much contact with her.  I spent most of my time with the nurses and ultrasound tech.  E, who is our other favorite nurse was not there today, but K said she would make sure E would be there on the 28th b/c she is so happy for us!  That was so nice to hear.  I truly feel lucky that we were not just physically cared for by our team, but emotionally cared for as well.  I know they wanted us to become pregnant just as much as we wanted it.   I don’t feel like we are out of the woods yet, but I do feel like we’ve hit the next milestone and I can breathe a bit easier now.

We still haven’t told anyone.  We wanted to tell my parents today on facetime, but my mom  was in the car on her way out to dinner with friends when we called.  We will try to get them both together again tomorrow afternoon.  We want to see their faces when we tell them.  We also want to be very clear that we are not ready to tell anyone else and expect them to keep it a secret.  I trust my dad completely with this, but my mom is another story.  I don’t know if anyone remembers a post I wrote a couple of months ago, but my mom told my brother that B and I are infertile.  I was furious with her for doing that, but she still feels he had a right to know.  We want to make it clear to her that we told her b/c we want her to be a part of it, but we expect her to keep things quiet until we are in the “safe” zone.  This will be 12 weeks for us as long as there are no complications at that point.

When we decided to transfer 2 non-top quality embryo’s I was terrified because I truly did not want twins.  Once we talked about it more, I felt it was the right decision medically as we already had 2 failed cycles with single top quality embryos.  Over the past couple of weeks, I have been wondering what this first ultrasound would be like.  How would I feel if there were no heartbeats?…heartbroken, defeated, helpless, to name a few  How would I feel if there was only 1 heartbeat?…and to my surprise, my initial thought was happy of course, but also a bit sad and disappointed.  How would I feel if there were two heartbeats?…thrilled, happy, terrified, but mostly happy.  Today I truly expected to only see 1 heartbeat because my beta levels weren’t super high (245 and 2 days later 491).  I can truly say that I am happy at the thought of twins.  I know things might not say this way, but for right now B and I are feeling like the luckiest couple in the world.